Elements Shining LightOh wow! I can’t believe I am still such a very self-centered person. A prideful, demanding, unrelenting individual. I know the principle of giving and receiving. Whatever we give out, will be what is metered back to us, at some point…usually right when we need it the most. “Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.” ~Luke 6:31 “Give, and it shall be given unto you good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over.” ~Luke 6:38

As many of you know, I have made a 1200 mile trip to begin a new business in North Carolina, where I am virtually unknown. Yet, armed with confidence, encouragement, and the knowledge that God is wherever I find myself to be, we set out into the unknown. He would be the One I relied on when it got hard…as I knew it would. So, I put my hands to the task, the promise of a bright future within our reach, because of the faithfulness of our God. And, it was the only way I knew to live the rest of my life close to our girls.

Today, I find myself not as changed as I once thought myself to be. Sure, there’s been plenty of “storms” the years have brought our way. There have also been times of questioning God, even as He provided me with life’s needs. I have received so very much from the One who redeemed me so many years ago. Beyond salvation…

So, why am I so stingy?

Today, a lady came into the building where my room is set up for business. She has been around several times since last September, and each time has asked for a shampoo service. Just a shampoo. That’s it. No drying the hair, no styling the hair…just a shampoo. She has always made it known she never pays more than $4.00 for it and that one person even offered to shampoo her hair for free. Evidentially, she has had a health issue, making it very difficult to understand what she is saying. Yet she continues to make the rounds of all 20 plus stylists that have set up their own rooms in this building where I work. A couple have obliged her and took care of her need. But not me…

This is a business blog, so why am I confessing my shortcomings? Simply because we all are tempted from time to time, to ignore particular needs. We pick and choose our customers. I’ve always prided myself with the fact that I would turn no-one away. And up until now, it’s always been that way. I’ve had a man stop by that worked in gutters all day, mending pipelines. He was covered from head to toe with mud. Including his face, ears, and hair. Yet I welcomed him in. I’ve sat those in my chair that have mental disorders in the worst way. Seeing things that aren’t there, and suggesting things that concerned me about my own safety. I’ve had those that tried to steal from me, in my chair. Those that were rude, those that were smelly. Why could I not bring myself to cater to this dear lady? It surely does puzzle me.

If there is a next time…a time that God sends her my way again, she will have a place in my chair, and I will not charge her.

The reason for this post, is in hopes you who read it, will serve those that are sent your way…no matter what they may look like, sound like, or appear to be. I actually thought she was trying to take advantage of me. But it shouldn’t matter if she was. She was there for a reason, and it may have been a blessing in disguise. And I missed it. And I’m so embarrassed, knowing that God knows my heart.

“Let your light so shine before men, that they may know your good works and glorify your Father who is in heaven.” ~Matthew 5:16

It’s rarely about us, Passionistas…


It’s True…Your Time Is Limited Time

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”  ~Steve Jobs

It’s a rare thing for us, while living the young years of life, to think about our futures being anything but long. The reality of life is that it is just a whisper. We begin to realize this as we age. As I look in the mirror, I wonder where my years have gone. I know I’ve lived them…just am amazed at how fast they seemed to have gone.

If I were to give any encouragement, any advise…I would say to “embrace transition”. Change happens. Years demand the transition from one ideology to another. From fantasizing, to reality, as we merge onto the redefining highway. Now…that doesn’t mean we look at our future as being a downer. No, no, no! The years bring CHANGE, not despair. A different reality. Possibly a NEW reality. All very good!

Seriously…think about it. Would you want to do (and be) the same today as you were yesterday? Okay…maybe stretch that a bit. Would you want to be doing the same thing today, as you were doing maybe 10 years ago? Nah…me neither!

I have been in the beauty industry for 38 years, with a couple of sebaticals…which brought change themselves…and I can tell you, my life has been a beautiful journey. But I believe the best is yet to come.

The purpose of this particular blog entry, is to dispel any type of fear one might face when looking into the looking-glass. I used to (long ago) watch the people who attended our beauty industry events. I could not imagine myself aging, and still being in the same business, as some of these older ladies. They were so dated in their hair styles, their clothing, their over-all appearance. I decided then and there, that I would go out strong…at my peak, and never allow myself this sort of (what I perceived to be) humiliation.

Well, that was one reason for my last sabbatical. Determined to re-identify myself, I closed the shop down, much to the dismay of many clients. That was in 1994 or ’95. Six years later, I was placing myself back in the industry that I loved. Crazy…simply crazy! Yet, it took only a short 6 months before my client base had built to where I could go back out on my own and open yet another business. It felt boomerangish. I threw it out, away from me (totally), and it returned to me as if it were so much a part of me, it had to come back. Just like those little paddle boards that have a rubber string attached to a small ball. You hit the ball away from you, and the rubber band brings it back to the paddle…or in the near vicinity of said paddle, to which you have to make the decision of whether to hit it again or let it fall.

Needless to say, I hit it again. Sometimes I question that decision, yet the ball keeps coming back to me. I suppose it is such a strong part of who I am, I must embrace it, with some element of change. Maybe a different way of hitting that little ball. But it all is good. We are made to be, and do, certain things in this short life we experience here on planet Earth. The sooner we follow the road we are set on, and stop taking all those rabbit trails, the better our lives will unfold. Sure, rabbit trails will bring a different kind of adventure. And maybe you can allow them once in a while. But what we are made for, is greatness in the inner person. Who we were created to be. And since we have a body of flesh and bone (and all those other ingredients), we must use it to get to where we are going. There is a plan, that if followed, will lead to a peaceful existence. And if we don’t follow that particular road, (for whatever reason), we will know no peace. Because we were not made for that existence.

When we find ourselves going in the wrong direction, we can always turn the car around, right? Right!

Don’t waste your years, do your own thing Passionistas!